This post is not the stuff of an ordinary Brave Ski Mom post. In support of Jen, Randy and Kalden Charrette, many of their friends are sharing this story today. This is my contribution and memorial.
It started with a Facebook post on the first Sunday in March.
A friend, Jen Charrette, posted that her two-year had been killed in Mexico. I stared at her words and wondered.
With Erica Lineberry (Cragmama) and me, Jen is one of The Adventure Moms at Women’s Adventure Magazine. Jen is VeloMom, and she and her family are passionate about biking.
“Maybe it was a terrible bike accident,” I thought to myself.
The next day Facebook brought me more news. A mutual Facebook friend told me that Jen’s son, Axel, had drowned in the pool of a home they were renting in Mexico. A babysitter was on duty, but couldn’t save him. “An accident, a terrible, tragic accident,” I thought to myself.
Forty eight hours had now passed since the first Facebook post went up. In addition to knowing one another through The Adventure Moms, Jen, Erica and I are part of a loose group of outdoor bloggers, male and female.
This group was buzzing. Again, via Facebook, we were sharing information, offering support and trying to console one another. Together, we were trying to process this devastating news.
And then it got worse.
A Good Dream Gone Bad
You see, Jen and her family were in Mexico for an extended stay. Jen works in technology and is what she calls “a digital nomad.” All she needs to do her job is WiFi. So in the fall, the Charrette family packed up, left Ridgway, Colorado and began making their way south to Sayulita, Mexico.
The biked along the way, exploring trails together in Utah, Arizona and California. Arriving in Mexico, Randy, Jen’s husband, posted photos of the lovely home they were renting from a Canadian family. They took jungle bike rides, taught their elementary school age son to surf and were living their dream.
The Stuff of Nightmares
And then the worst happened. To help around the house and provide occasional babysitting for their boys, Jen and Randy hired a woman and her teenage daughter on the recommendation of their landlord.
On February 28, the boys were in the care of the daughter when she made a bad decision. She let a man into their walled compound. He was high on something and violent. His girlfriend became scared and locked herself and the Charrette’s older son inside. She left Axel outdoors. The man assaulted him and then threw him into a swimming pool where he drowned.
Both the babysitter and her friend are charged with murder and being prosecuted in Mexico.
Remembering Axel
Axel Charrette will be remembered tonight at a memorial service in his hometown of Ridgway.
Right before the Charrette family left for the nomadic adventure, they had dinner at our home. We had crossed paths with them numerous times, as both Randy and my husband enjoy the odd pursuit of cyclocross racing. Amazingly, although I’d known Jen for 2 and 1/2 years, this was the first time I met her face to face.
They’re delightful and their boys were simply put, little lights. Full of energy and joy, both boys entertained us while they played in the yard with our dog. Watching them, Jen asked me if I had any advice about how to keep the stronger elder son from inadvertently pushing over the toddling younger son as they ran and played. I didn’t. They were just being brothers, laughing, exploring and happy to be outdoors together.
That night, as they were leaving we spoke of getting together at some point in the future. We wished them well on their journey.
Today, we wish Axel well on his journey. We remember his sturdy little legs, chasing his brother and trying to keep up. We remember his electric smile and his lovely nature.
Godspeed Axel.
If You Want To Help
In memory of Axel, a memorial fund has been established at Alpine Bank in Ridgway. The fund will be used to provide bikes for kids who otherwise couldn’t afford them. While donations cannot be made online, they can be mailed to The Axel Charrette Fund, Alpine Bank, 119 Liddell Drive, Ridgway, CO 81432.
The town of Ridgway is also naming a bike trail in Axel’s memory. Maybe someday you’ll ride it. Even if you don’t, hug your own children close today, remember how beautiful life is and say a prayer for Axel and his family.
Thank you.
© 2013 – 2017, braveskimom. All rights reserved. Any use or publication of content, including photos, requires express permission.
When Susan told me about this situation, I was heartbroken. Thank you for sharing this sad news with your readers. On behalf of all of us at XSports, we send our thoughts to Jen, Randy, and Kalden. Jim
Thank you Jim and Susan. I know the Charrette’s appreciate everyone’s support.
This is so, so sad. I don’t know these people at all, but as a mother my heart just breaks. Truly the stuff of nightmares. The memorial fund is a wonderful way to keep his memory alive and bring joy to other children. Thanks for posting this, BSM.
You’re welcome Ski Diva. Thanks for reading it. I think it strikes all moms and dads in a place we don’t want to go. Cheers.
I am devastated by this story and ache for Axel’s family, and for that precious boy, to be taken from this world so violently. You know I visited Salyulita last spring on a press trip and after interviewing some locals, I learned of the increasing drug problem (meth, heroine) there. Many Americans who have moved there moved away and some vistiors who know of this problem are staying away.This solidifies that notion for me. May that beautiful boy rest in peace and the people responsible be brought to justice.
Thank you Amiee. Your firsthand perspective is interesting. So sad that drugs destroy so many beautiful places and beautiful lives. Be safe.
Wow, this is just heartbreaking and very difficult to absorb. It’s hard to find words to describe how horrible this is for everyone involved. I’m so sorry to learn this news, and am praying for the family.
Thanks Dave. There are really no words. Thanks for your prayers and support for the family.
This is so tragic and heartbreaking. I can not imagine the loss felt by this family. What an incredible little boy. Thank you for providing the memorial fund information.
You are welcome Suzanne. It’s nice to know even one so young can leave a lasting legacy.
Oh, I am so sorry for this family and the loss of their precious Axel. May God carry them in their grief. Please let them know we care and we join them in their sorrow.
Thanks Brenda. I will let them know. I know they can feel so much love already.
Beautifully written. So very, very sad. 🙁
Thanks Amber. I appreciate it. Cheers.
Every parents’ nightmare. To lose a child, despite all your best efforts to protect them. Heartbreaking. I wish them strength in their grief.
Thanks David. It is such a tragedy.
My heart breaks for this family and this young boy. Unfortunately we live in a society where we can not trust strangers, neighbors, and in many cases our own family. Inner demons that haunt these people are usually not visible on the outside and this babysitter wasn’t willing to give her life to save a child entrusted to her care. I am so so sorry.
You know Karen, you write something that I hadn’t articulated, but is so true: the babysitter was unwilling to take a risk to save the child. When community breaks down at that level, we all need prayers. Thank so much.